In this crazy world we're living, it's almost impossible to stop, even if it is for a while, and take a look at what really matters: Our welfare and self love.
There are just so many things to care about these days, and if you are a housewife with kids, well, you probably never stop to care about yourself.
And let me tell you, these two things I mentioned, are pretty connected with the way you see yourself, because if you're not caring about yourself, sooner or later you will regret it.
So here I give you, some steps to really, love yourself more and become the powerful and amazing woman you ever wanted to be!
Know your body.
Did you ever feel like, you just entered in a time machine and suddenly, your body got stretches, scars, spots and wrinkles it never had? And It's pretty annoying, how these little things, can destroy your self esteem in seconds, right?
Well, most of the time, we forget, that our body is the 'book' of our lives.
It tells our stories, from the time we were born, until the end of our existence.
Let's make it simple: I used to hate my belly stretches. I didn't have it before i got married, and now here they are, looking at me every time i get naked.
But a few days ago, I just realized an awesome thing: They tell me the story, of how successfully I could get over, a very deep and strong, depressive period of my life.
Because inevitably, i earned some pounds, and then, well, my body reacted to it.
But just the fact that I'm here, still alive to see them, proves me how strong and powerful I am. And the truth is, some people have scars in their wrists, or legs.
And some people, couldn't succeed to look at their own scars.
I was lucky enough to, and my stretches are a soft way to remember me, I'm still alive.
It doesn't matter if it's a stretch mark, or just a freckle you got while enjoying that summer, with the people you love. It can be from a sad or a happy moment in your life.
The fact is, it's part of you. Part of your existence, and maybe it's the next new thing, that will make you smile from now on.
So tell me, what powerful story, does your scars reminds you of?
Stop comparing yourself with others.
Ok, this one is tough.
I don't know if it's society, that pushes us to do this, or the social media, or our parents, I don't know.
What I do know though, is that this is one of the most worst enemies of our self esteem! Why? Let's see the following example:
Carrie is a very talented housewife, who likes to cook and actually is pretty good with gardening.
She is happy with the homework, and the gardening is a hobby.
She feels herself, filled with love and happiness.
But, a rainy day brought some blue feelings, when rolling the Instagram feed, she comes across Emily's profile.
Emily is a very successful CEO at her own business, she has 3 kids and still is able to run her own company, take care of her husband and be in a very, good shape.
Gosh, did it hurt you?
Well, Carrie now is on the floor, feeling smaller than a tiny weenie ant.
But Carrie shouldn't feel so bad and neither any of us.
Because the reason, speaks for itself: Emily is not Carrie and Carrie is not Emily.
I know, it sounds pretty obvious, you would say. But give me the right, to show you things how they really are, for a second.
You will probably NEVER know, if she is really this happy, or the kind of bad things she's going through. Just because, this is SOCIAL MEDIA (well, actually, you shouldn't feel any good, about someone having a hard time either, but I think you know that). So, in this world called, social media, everybody is happy, gorgeous and almost rich. Because this is what people wants to show others. Not because this is the truth.
Emily, like any of us, had her own path to the life she has nowadays. And maybe, she was studying so hard, to build her own company. While maybe, the younger Carrie was enjoying her life, going out and spending all her money in trips and parties (which is awesome). But AGAIN, we we'll never know, if this was what really happened, or if for example, her father gave her a hand, and she had the ''same'' life as Carrie, in her youth, and was just lucky enough, to get it all done. Maybe she was even obligated by someone, to be this focused on this business and she is not even happy being a business woman. Who knows?
Our brains play tricks on us, saying things like "Wow, look at this woman! She is the same age as you and look how far she got! Not to mention she is twice hotter than you!'' And BAM! You are now, feeling like shit. But don't listen to it, as i said, you probably did your best, with your life, to get here. Don't put yourself down, because you can work out to make yourself hotter (if you think you need), and you probably have an awesome life, inspiring someone as well. Everyone is inspiring someone, somehow.
Change the things you can, love what you can't.
Everyone has little things they don't like in their bodies.
Not to mention, all the stars, that struggled with earning or losing pounds, bad plastic surgeries etc.
And do you know why, even being that famous, they still deal with these common stuff?
Cause they are humans. Just like you!
So if there is something, you don't like about your body, ask yourself: "Can I change it?" and if you can, ask again: "Will that make me happier? Is it really necessary to make me feel comfortable in my own skin?" Then, if the answer is yes for all these questions, well, go for it. Just please, do it in a safe way, and in case you are up for plastic surgery, do some research before, because this is serious! If it's just getting a healthier life, because you want to lose some weight, then you can get inspired by real people doing some real changes in their lives, go to a nutritionist and do it in the right and proper way. Please, Don't get lost in some sick-new-keto-diet. Okay? Take it easy.
And finally, if you can't change it, maybe, in the end, that's something that makes you special. Did you think about it?
Give some extra care to yourself.
And last but not least, take some time in your busy schedule, and spend the day doing things you like. It can be in the fancy way, if you can afford, going to some amazing SPA. Or just taking a long-long-long shower, with some sweetened-smelling scented candles lightening the room. It can even be, reading a book that makes you trip, or going to your hairstylist and finally, giving your hair the treatment it needed.
You know, take care of yourself. Gift yourself at least one day like this, every week, or every 2 weeks. Just don't forget to do it, and you will boost your happiness girl!
No more words to say, I really hope you all enjoyed my secret tips for a better life with more self love, see you again in the next post.
Take care, and don't forget to love.
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